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22 Feb

Two Conflict Competence Workshops Offered This Spring

I’m offering two full day workshops from the Building Conflict Competence series this spring with one big change: both workshops will be offered on a pay-what-you-can basis. Previous workshops have been (affordably) priced at $60 each or two for $100, but now you can decide what payment works for you. Past attendees will tell you that the lessons in each workshop are invaluable in all parts of their lives. I hope you will consider joining me.

REAL TALK WITHOUT BURNING BRIDGES, Saturday, March 10, 9:30-4

LISTENING: A SKILL-BUILDING WORKSHOP, Saturday, April 28, 9:30-4

Both workshops employ a combination of lecture, exercises, experiential activities, and take-away practices and are part of the Building Conflict Competence Series. The schedule includes a lunch break. Participants provide their own lunch. There are many dining options in easy walking distance. REGISTER

Location: 24 Veterans Square, Media, PA 19063 (look for the orange and black HeadRoom awning). The space is located on the second floor and access is by steps only.

REAL TALK WITHOUT BURNING BRIDGES

It’s a tough time for real talk. Our political climate is divisive and often uncivil and it’s bleeding into all parts of our lives. So, how to do you engage in civil dialogue and real talk when you are not in agreement? You can learn how and apply it at work, home, social settings, or any where else and do it without burning bridges. What does one learn in a workshop on dialogue? Well, in this one, you learn:
  • A lot about listening
  • A lot about effective questions usually coming from a place of curiosity
  • An overview of what research has shown to change people’s minds and what does not change people’s minds
  • An overview of cognitive bias
  • What we can do to encourage people to listen to us
  • Strategies to manage our internal challenges in dialogue (be it internal dialogues, biases, a choking lump in your throat, fear, a heart that beats so fast you don’t know how you can do it, developing courage, etc.)
  • Regular practices that help built skills and capabilities
  • And more   (NOTE: This workshop was previously titled Secrets to Civil and Productive Dialogue.)

LISTENING: A SKILL-BUILDING WORKSHOP

I’m always writing about the importance of listening (like here and here) and like to share inspiring quotes about it. Now is your chance to build your listening skills in a fun and engaging one day workshop. We’ll build your listening skills for improved performance at work and to strengthen your personal relationships.

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24 Dec

Listening: A Profound New Year’s Resolution

If speaking is silver, then listening is gold.   — Turkish Proverb

The year’s end is a natural time for reflection. I enjoy looking back at the past year – appreciating the successes and joys, considering what I’d like to do differently. I make resolutions most years. Sometimes they include typical themes like weight loss, but usually there are a few concrete goals to guide me through the year. A few years ago, I began recording these in a journal along with a few other notes and inspirations that speak to important and thought-provoking experiences like attending a retreat or processing a heartbreak. Yearly re-reading inspires new reflections and goals.    

I chuckled while recently revisiting one of my past resolution themes: Listen. Listen. Listen. Yes, it was there three times. It was almost as though I was shaking myself to get my attention – shouting even. As a mediator, I listen professionally and I realize its importance, but it’s much harder for me to do in daily life. You can probably relate. But listening is a cornerstone for broad, long term goals like having rich and loving personal relationships and a strong and effective professional referral network.

Effective listening – NOT the same as hearing – is a critical life skill that can be learned. To learn it well, you must PRACTICE. Perhaps improving your listening should be one of your new year’s resolutions. It’s a great pick because it improves all aspects of your life, while also benefiting those around you. Madelyn Burley-Allen, author of Listening: The Forgotten Skill, writes that when we listen deeply, we:

  • acknowledge the speaker
  • increase the speaker’s self-esteem and confidence
  • tell the speaker, “You are important” and “I am not judging you”
  • gain the speaker’s cooperation
  • reduce stress and tension
  • build teamwork
  • gain trust
  • elicit openness
  • gain a sharing of ideas and thoughts
  • obtain more valid information about the speaker and the subject 

If you’d like some guidance and practice in developing your listening skills, stay tuned for our winter 2016 Listening Skills workshop. Listening is at the heart of a healthy approach to minimizing conflicts and resolving them productively.

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06 Oct

NEW! Listening Skills Class Offered, October 26, November 2

“One friend, one person who is truly understanding, who takes the trouble to listen to us as we consider a problem, can change our whole outlook on the world.”

— Dr. E. H. Mayo

I’m always writing about the importance of listening (like here and here) and sharing inspiring quotes about it.  Now is your chance to build your listening skills at an incredibly affordable price. I’m teaching a two evening workshop for the Wallingford Swarthmore Community Classes program.  Classes are Monday, October 26 and November 2 from 7-9 pm. Each night can be taken as a standalone, but registration is only available for the whole program. I hope you will join us.

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06 Oct

Listen Up! The Stats on the Power of Listening Are Staggering

How-we-communicateTo share just a few:

Number of business studies that indicate that listening is a top skill needed for success in business: 35

Numerical order among the reasons that marriages fail that not really listening is: 1

Amount of time we spend listening: 45%

Percentage of what we know that we have learned by listening: 85%

Amount of the time we are distracted, preoccupied or forgetful when listening: 75%

Reduction in office visits by chronically ill patients after they have been listened to for 15-30 minutes: 30%

Percentage of Americans who have had any formal education in listening: 2%

Maybe it’s time for you to get a formal education on listening. Check out our latest workshops.

 

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24 Aug

Conflict Quotes ~ Dean Rusk on the Persuasive Power of Listening

2015-08-24 Rusk on Listening

10 Aug

Conflict Quotes ~ Robert Greenleaf on Communication

2015-08-10 Greenleaf

03 Aug

Conflict Quotes ~ Frank Tyger on Listening

2015-08-03 Tyger

27 Jul

Conflict Quotes ~ Lee Iacocca on Listening

2015-07-27 Iococca

02 Jan

Thich Nhat Hanh on Listening

Hanh Deep Listening Meme

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